If you can get some from family, friends or hired then do. While we had some family around in the early days to give us a hand now and again with household things and meals I (being the independent sort) felt I needed to prove to myself that I could manage when it was just me, E and M. Having others around prevented me from learning how to do it alone, I wanted to get properly stuck into establishing our own little routine and to get out and about and meet others so as soon as my husband returned to work after two weeks paternity leave and two weeks stashed up annual leave I went it alone as much as possible. When they were young it was easier to get out as they slept and drank out and about. As they got older, mobile and messier I found it more complicated to get out and about and get all the day to day chores done so gradually became more isolated, at this point we made cut backs where possible and sought out a cleaner that would help me break the back of the housework for an hour once a week. I thoroughly recommend getting a cleaner to help out even if just a little so you can keep on top of things and continue to get out, it will do all three of you some good.